So Why Exactly Has He Changed?

I know I am an inconsistent blogger, but I'm busy. Trust it burns me not to blog but I have to concentrate on other things at the moment. So this will just be a quick one.

So as I was surfing through the pages of Facebook I came along my friend's status update which I thought was very interesting, it read:

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wants to know why do guys act like sweet gentlemen at the beginning of something new, then a couple months later rip of their masks and reveal the TRUE DOG behind their imposterous identity??? I want to know!"

I thought it would have been obvious, I mean do females really need this questione answered? Its so simple. I mean its staring you right in the face.
Anyway after certain people asked me to elaborate I gave reasons for what might cause a sudden change in the attitude of someone you are getting to know on that level. So here is what I wrote:


1) Guys know what to do in order "snare" or "entrap" a woman. They know they need to be as emotionally & physically attractive as possible. Now in most cases guys are just trying to "beat" and run. Guys are very crafty in the sense they will zero in on everything you want in a guy and then through some kind of Oscar nominated performance pretend to be that guy till you give it up. So when they are being chivalrous or being what you call a true gentleman, they are in fact acting knowing that this is how you'd prefer them to act so that eventually you'll nicely open your legs when the appropriate time comes.

2) In relationship formation it is standard practice that it is seen as "relationship suicide" if you come out right from the start about who you truly are. No one wants someone on their first encounter to come clean about all their insecurities, inhibitions and infidelities, so they portray the A-class standard of themselves just to give the relationship a chance to develop. After a while when the person deems that enough time has passed; they will start letting their true selves out in little doses or in some extreme cases all at once. All to an extent that the person you are left with standing in front of you no longer bares any resemblance to the person you initially got to know. Everyone does it, just depends to what extent you decide to do it.

3) They have just gotten comfortable. Not that they have been consciously trying to deceive you, but enough time has passed and they don't feel to adhere to certain rules of the "social contract" anymore and feel that your relationship has developed enough to withstand certain outbursts, or certain slips of the tongue. This is not really ripping off the mask but as a relationship develops then obviously you should be able to express certain things that you wouldn't have been able to at the beginning.


4) The person is looking to "dissolve the relationship" either because he has achieved or not achieved the goals set out in reason (1) and cannot be bothered to carry on with the act anymore. Or he is just putting on another act in trying to show his worst aspects of himself because he wants to end the relationship but does not want to be the one to actually do it. Guys are very smart in knowing that females feel a sense of power and accomplishment when they feel there is no saving a relationship and so decide to end it. What ladies do not know is that the guy will almost unconsciously force you to break up with him through the way he switches up his personality. So there is a win-win situation. The girl will feel she took the initiative in ending it and will have justification when they speak to their girls: "he was a dickhead anyway, I'm better off anyway". The guy will win knowing that he can say the girl ended it, if any arguments start and will have the added benefit of not looking like a playa when he moves onto his next victim.

This is an often used tactic that a lot of guys use to make sure the relationship ends on their terms even though the female may feel it ended on hers.


Can't think of anymore but those are the main reasons that came straight to my head in terms of why you may feel someone has changed from when you first met them to now.

Now don't go around accusing all your ex guys that they used these underhanded tactics. They may be other reasons that I have failed to mention, or who knows. Maybe they changed because there was a change in you first? I note, FEMALES use these same tactics as well, it is not a phenomena used exclusively by the male species.

Hope I have answered your question and not unwittingly caused any arguments between couples because of this.

From the management of www.mikez-world.blogspot.com

Mike. O

BASHY IS SICK!!!

So I read a couple of other Blogs and from time to time I pop over to Bashy's word press blog and see what he is saying. I'm a big fan of his and I think he has what it takes to BLOW.

Anyway my housemate came to me the other day saying how there's a rumour Bashy got rushed and he put a pic up on his blog to confirm it:


Like other people I was kinda sceptical as to if the picture was real. I mean it does look very convincing but on closer inspection there isn't enough swelling if Bashy really did get touched like that. Bashy was very silent on the matter, not responding to people commenting on his blog and only leaving a cryptic saying by Ghandi.

So I thought I'd leave it and see what happens.

So I woke up this morning and came along this video................




It all became apparent. The pic was like a promo for his new video which you clearly see has Bashy sporting the same injuries as in the picture. The video also has another 2 artists I rate highly, Wretch and Scorcher. It's entitled Ransom Part 1, so I think it's safe to assume there might be another couple of videos being released.

Have to rate Bashy for this one man. I like artists that can push the boundaries and just do things differently. Gotta commend him on his originality. And the video looks very professional as well, just shows certain man are moving up the industry ladder.

Bashy's Album: Catch Me If You Can is released on June 1st. Might have to go buy myself a copy still.

DRIZZY......................SO FAR GONE

So a couple of months ago I was sitting chilling in the pool room. Just talking to some people on FB chat like everyone else does.

Out of nowhere my friend Alexis pops up and starts screaming and raving about some guy called Drake.


I was like Drake who?

She then went on about how he's a signing to Weezy's cash money records and he released a new mixtape. A rapper and a vocalist she said. I immediately had my doubts because I'm sceptical of new musicians especially people trying to be more than one thing. But I'll give everyone a chance.


So I listened to the mixtape, and what else could I say??


IT WAS NANG, SICK, OUT OF THIS WORLD, IT WAS JUST..........................SO FAR GONE.

Had it on repeat for a good month but then I forgot about him until I saw this on Julie's Blog..



And then I was like, sheeeet, its Drake. And I thought I would share his music with you. Listen to it!!! Link below.

DRAKE - SO FAR GONE

And here is his Myspace if you're interested:

http://www.myspace.com/thisisdrake

The Whole HeartBreak Saga.............

Recently on my FB I had a whole lot of weird statuses about the "City of Heartbreak" which really confused a lot of people, so I'm going to take some time out to explain what I was going through and what I was trying to achieve.


First off listen to this...................................................






YEEZY IS A GENIUS! FULL STOP. I DON'T CARE IF YOU THINK HE IS GAY, ARROGANT, WEIRD OR WHATEVER. SSSSSSSSSSSSHHHHHHHHHH!!!

I JUST DO NOT WANT TO HEAR IT! HE'S A GENIUS, CASE CLOSED!!

ok.

So if you have listened to this song and did not have it on repeat for a solid week then you are not listening to the song properly. Or you are just one of those unlucky people that can't understand Kanye's music. The 1st time I heard the song I was in my uni's computer pool room and the song just had one different affect on me.

It was the line"Welcome To Heartbreak" that really got me.
Where was this place and how do you get there?
Obviously, I know Heartbreak is not a real place, but a state of being, and the only way to get there was to have my heartbroken.

Having my heartbroken is not something that I intend being done to me anytime soon, but I still wanted to go to this place. I'm stubborn like that.

So through Kanye's "abstract expression" and my powerful childlike imagination I created a world within Mikez World. Through the sheer power of my imagination and craziness I created a little community in the nether regions of my mind. And "Heartbreak" was created.

Now, in this community where all those heartbroken fools who moped around all depressed and did nothing all day. Crying over the ones who had caused their fragile hearts to break in the first place. Among these down trodden people I found a place I could call home...........so I started property hunting.

I found a nice little house and put this as my doormat:



I thought my fellow neighbours would accept me, they didn't.
I mean I was heartbroken just not in the sense they were. My heart was broken in the sense I think its faulty. I find it very hard to care for people and when I don't care for someone they mean absolutely nothing to me. I'm what you might call cold hearted. I also did not care for intimate relationships either. Something I thought heartbroken people could relate to.

But the other residents of Heartbreak did not accept me, they complained that I didn't belong and I should leave. I pleaded my case but they would not listen.

(This is all played out on my FB statuses, if you don't understand read back over my statuses and you should start to piece it together and understand)

I liked expressing myself abstractly through my statuses even though not many people got them. People thought I was actually heartbroken, as if someone could actually touch my heart let alone break it. PLEASE.

Even though I explicitly stated I was not heartbroken, I just guess some people are illiterate.

But I decided to go back to my controversial statuses and all my FB friends rejoiced.

LOL , stupid idiots, they don't know a genius when they see one. I guess me and my boi Kanye will just have to remain misunderstood.

Forget Me Nots- Back In The Day Record Of The Week #4

The best song Amy Winehouse ever made!!

I do not care what you think, you are wrong. This is her best song....

I cuss people secretly in my head. Don't act like you don't do it too!

So the other day I was in Canterbury for my friends Rave.

Me, Rets, Ross, Nana and Shufflez had all gone down there for a road trip. We had bare joke along the way but this is not the reason for this post.

When we got to the club we were all a lil high and I wasn't really in the mood for raving. One of the reasons I go raving is too make sure I dance I have a good time. If any of you have seen me in a rave skankin it up with my man dem then you know I go hard. Sweatin real hard. However much I pay to get into the rave is the buckets I need to sweat from dancing to make me feel I've got my moneys worth. I don't know if it was that I got in free that I didn't feel like dancing or I just wasn't in the raving mood, but my two feet were not moving to the rhythm of any beat.

Now, when I'm in this mood I can always rely on the fact that there will always be some good eye candy to feast my eyes into. Someone had told me that there were bare choong girls in Kent as well so I was a little excited.

I WAS EXTREMELY DISAPPOINTED!

Every girl that walked past me, different phrases kept flashing through my head:

"Ergghh Buttaz" ..............................

"Lol, Fucked up weave".........................

"Can't dress"......................

"What did I say about obese people in raves?? BAN THEM"..............

"Flat bum"......................................

"No Breasts"...............................

"Fuck, How can you smell like that?".......................

"Didn't try"................................

"Plz don't look at me like that. I'm not looking at you cos' I think your nice and I'm deciding if I should move to you or not. I'm looking at you because I can't believe your face looks like that all the time!".........................

And it went on and on and on.
I mean I was disappointed, but at least I kept myself entertained. I think I kept others entertained as well because I other people had caught on to what I was doing from when every girl that passed me I would just start shaking my head in disappointment.

After that, I realised "evaluating" people in my head is something I do a lot. I mean I just can't help it, my mind is always working. I mean, before I even know it my brain already has 6 bullets of cussing ammo loaded in the insult shotgun ready to explode out of my mouth.

But the thing is; it rarely does. I like the idea that my mind is my own personal territory that no one else can penetrate. If only you people knew what passed through my head sometimes.......................you would be shocked, trust me. But don't start getting paranoid now.

Its just who I am.............What can I say?

I just have a very sick and twisted mynd. LOL

Would You Save A Stranger??

Yh I know I'm a waste man for not posting when I said I would.

But between working and writing a dissertation I have no time to do anything but I've been feeling overly creative recently and I had to release something.

So because a few of you wonderful people know that my dissertation is on youth violence, quite a number of you text me a couple of nights ago telling me to watch channel 4 because you thought it was relevant to my disso.

It wasn't that relevant at all but it was interesting none the less.

And it poses the very real question that in any given situation when another member of our society is in trouble would we help them even if it meant risk to our own well being?

Now being where we are from, it is an unspoken rule that you just simply don't get involved in someone else's affairs if it does not concern you. It is not your beef so why should you get involved? Which is very true and it also protects you. Because even a polite "what's going on" can lead to the tables turning on you and before you know it your in a life threatening situation.

There was one story when a little boy was getting rushed on a packed bus by a group of like 15 youths and everyone just ignored it like it was not happening. Which I thought was shocking but I questioned myself and I would have probably done the same thing.

I remember going to a temp job around Christmas times like 2 years ago and I was on Tottenham High Road at like 5:30 in the morning. I was walking towards the bus stop and there seemed to be one crazy guy talking to two people. As I got closer I realised it was a typical "Jacking" situation where the guy was searching the guys looking for possessions he could steal.

Now I just walked past pretending not to see what was happening, just praying the guy did not see me as a potential victim because it was way too early for me to start fighting. But my bus came and I hopped on it just thankful this crazy guy had not tried to approach me. I do not know what happened to the other two guys.............................

And that's just the thing. In this day and age even if we see someone is in need of help, would we help them?
I'm sure the usual things run through our heads...

"Its not my place to get involved"

"What about if I get hurt trying to help this person?"

"Maybe they deserve it, who knows, they might have a valid reason for wanting to hurt the person?"

The documentary told the story of a woman called Roisin whose son had seen some children getting jacked and he decided to go and intervene. Unfortunately, he was fatally stabbed by the guy who was doing the jacking. A sad story I know but a real one. There is no guarantee when intervening in a dangerous situation that you will come out safe the other side.

There was another story of a guy who was getting his head kicked in by some crazy guy, luckily a passer by and a wife came to the guys rescue and saved his life.

So what would your choice be?

I guess it all comes down to what you could live with.
Could you live with the fact that a person died when it was well within your means to help them?
Or could you not live with the fact that by you helping someone it could end up with you being the one seriously harmed and your friends and family grieving over you.

I don't really have an answer, guess you just have to be in that type of situation.

Mikez World v1.2

So as you can see the long awaited renovations have finally been done. Because its been a while some of you guys might not actually remember what v1.0 looked like but trust me its different.

There is only one person to thank for this,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and that's my blogging mentor JULIE.

She did everything out of the kindness of her heart. So finally things are starting to fall into place.

And don't worry I got some proper blog posts in the pipe waiting to be published.


From the team at MIKEZ WORLD