So Why Exactly Has He Changed?

I know I am an inconsistent blogger, but I'm busy. Trust it burns me not to blog but I have to concentrate on other things at the moment. So this will just be a quick one.

So as I was surfing through the pages of Facebook I came along my friend's status update which I thought was very interesting, it read:

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wants to know why do guys act like sweet gentlemen at the beginning of something new, then a couple months later rip of their masks and reveal the TRUE DOG behind their imposterous identity??? I want to know!"

I thought it would have been obvious, I mean do females really need this questione answered? Its so simple. I mean its staring you right in the face.
Anyway after certain people asked me to elaborate I gave reasons for what might cause a sudden change in the attitude of someone you are getting to know on that level. So here is what I wrote:


1) Guys know what to do in order "snare" or "entrap" a woman. They know they need to be as emotionally & physically attractive as possible. Now in most cases guys are just trying to "beat" and run. Guys are very crafty in the sense they will zero in on everything you want in a guy and then through some kind of Oscar nominated performance pretend to be that guy till you give it up. So when they are being chivalrous or being what you call a true gentleman, they are in fact acting knowing that this is how you'd prefer them to act so that eventually you'll nicely open your legs when the appropriate time comes.

2) In relationship formation it is standard practice that it is seen as "relationship suicide" if you come out right from the start about who you truly are. No one wants someone on their first encounter to come clean about all their insecurities, inhibitions and infidelities, so they portray the A-class standard of themselves just to give the relationship a chance to develop. After a while when the person deems that enough time has passed; they will start letting their true selves out in little doses or in some extreme cases all at once. All to an extent that the person you are left with standing in front of you no longer bares any resemblance to the person you initially got to know. Everyone does it, just depends to what extent you decide to do it.

3) They have just gotten comfortable. Not that they have been consciously trying to deceive you, but enough time has passed and they don't feel to adhere to certain rules of the "social contract" anymore and feel that your relationship has developed enough to withstand certain outbursts, or certain slips of the tongue. This is not really ripping off the mask but as a relationship develops then obviously you should be able to express certain things that you wouldn't have been able to at the beginning.


4) The person is looking to "dissolve the relationship" either because he has achieved or not achieved the goals set out in reason (1) and cannot be bothered to carry on with the act anymore. Or he is just putting on another act in trying to show his worst aspects of himself because he wants to end the relationship but does not want to be the one to actually do it. Guys are very smart in knowing that females feel a sense of power and accomplishment when they feel there is no saving a relationship and so decide to end it. What ladies do not know is that the guy will almost unconsciously force you to break up with him through the way he switches up his personality. So there is a win-win situation. The girl will feel she took the initiative in ending it and will have justification when they speak to their girls: "he was a dickhead anyway, I'm better off anyway". The guy will win knowing that he can say the girl ended it, if any arguments start and will have the added benefit of not looking like a playa when he moves onto his next victim.

This is an often used tactic that a lot of guys use to make sure the relationship ends on their terms even though the female may feel it ended on hers.


Can't think of anymore but those are the main reasons that came straight to my head in terms of why you may feel someone has changed from when you first met them to now.

Now don't go around accusing all your ex guys that they used these underhanded tactics. They may be other reasons that I have failed to mention, or who knows. Maybe they changed because there was a change in you first? I note, FEMALES use these same tactics as well, it is not a phenomena used exclusively by the male species.

Hope I have answered your question and not unwittingly caused any arguments between couples because of this.

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